Get Oral

“You need to communicate with your partner,” says Taylor. Find out what sort of fantasies they have. Start opening up in the relationship and sharing what kind of fantasies you have. By doing that, it gives you an idea for the kind of theme you want to set or the kind of role you want to play when you’re enacting a performance.”

Spill Your Secret Fantasies. Sex with your partner may be fine, but he may be harboring a secret desire to be tied up or to do role-play activities, but until now, he’s been hesitant to tell you about it. Ask him! If your man is the shy type, don’t be afraid to take the lead and share your wishes with him. 

Start Small. How many times have you complained that your partner never brings you flowers? “So many women think that men should just know what would really turn us on or what we would really kike,” Taylor says. “They don’t know; they can only assume. What happens is you end up sitting there in your relationship, all the time, kind of pissed off that you’re not getting flowers. Instead say ‘you know what dear? I know you don’t always think of these things, but I would really love flowers and it really excites me and turns me on when I get flowers. It would make me so happy if you would do that for no reason at all.’ And you’d be surprised. This way they don’t feel like they’re being told what to do.”

            Now you’re talkin’, but its time to take action…

Role Play

You’ve been communicating, and now you’ve got an idea of what gets your partner all hot and bothered. You’re picking up on his clues – his jokes about the Laker Girls may hold meaning. Cheerleader fantasy, hint, hint! But make sure the vixen alter ego you choose is comfortable for BOTH of you. If you’re not into the naughty character you’ve designed, this fun-filled game is going to end up more awkward than arousing.

Choose a Stage Name. Food, luxury items, and predominant physical features are good places to go for your moniker. However, since your exotic dancing is more likely to remain an in-house thing, don’t feel you have to come up with the crème-de-la-crème of porn star names. Taylor also recommends using your stage name to laugh at yourself, especially to ease the pressure of exposing a less-than-desirable body “flaw” – i.e. “Love handles Lucy.”

Play Dress Up. Search vintage and second-hand shops for costumes for your “character.” Pick out lingerie that enhances your body. If you have large breasts, look for a naughty corset that will gather your girls up and show them off. If you’re smaller on top – flaunt that too! Try a cupless corset or merry widow to show off those cute little boobies. But no matter what you’re dressed in, the most attractive thing to wear is confidence.

Set The Stage. You’ve got your hot-to-trot outfit and a sexy name to boot. Now flush out the rest of your erotic scenario. Candles or lamps? Move all the houseplants into the living room for a jungle scene. Make sure your bad boy has a place to sit while you knock his socks off with your nasty moves. And finally, double-check your timing. If you’ve planned to do your dance of seduction the same night as the NBA finals, you may be disappointed that your pom-pom routine is ignored for a Shaq attack.

Fear Factor. Thinking about the big day is making your knees shake – but it’s not because you’re so turned on. The thought of spinning around the house in nothing but your birthday suit is, well, scaring the pants off you. “The more you practice, and you’re comfortable with the clothes you’ve chosen, then you’ll overcome the fear of actually doing it, says Taylor.

Let’s Get It On

Your man is home and he’s just spied you and your mom-poms. Now what do you do?

Watch Out Baby! “A lot of women complain that they never get enough foreplay,” says Taylor. “You can use this whole thing as a way to get all the foreplay you want. Tie him up, and make him sit there and take it until you are good and ready. You might want to just lay there and play with ice cubes on yourself and let him sit there and watch. Men love to watch, but they’re seldom given the opportunity because they are often dying to jump in there and go for it.”

            If your man goes diving for your boobs the second you toss aside your letterman sweater, sit his over-anxious butt right back down until you’ve shown him your best “stir the pot,” queen’s wave,” and “leg up.” Gypsy Rose Lee would never stand for a Groping Gus ruining her big number!

THE PLAYGIRL SHOW

THE MUSIC

I Feel Like a Woman, Shania Twain Wild Women Do, Natalie Cole Naughty Girls (Need Love Too), Samantha Fox Lady Marmalade, Christina Aguilera, Mya, and Pink

THE COSTUME

Playgirls are fun, feisty women who are comfortable with who they are, so start out with your everyday wear. It’ll add the element of surprise when you hit the play button on the stereo and reveal what you have underneath.) Compliment your outfit with a pair of sex kitten stiletto heels that’ll make your legs look phenomenal and your tush high and tight. Peel down to some red-hot lingerie like the French Net three-piece bustier set from www.flirtylingerie.com. The sheer fabric, ribbons, bows and irresistible thigh-high stocking straight out of Moulin Rouge will make his blood boil!

THE MOVES

Stirring the Pot – “A classic and essential move in the repertoire of any exotic dancer.” Swivel your hips in a broad counter-clockwise motion while keeping your right foot slightly ahead of your left and your knees slightly bent.

Queen’s Wave – Bend forward and place your hands on your knees. Arch your back with your butt toward him. Working from your hips, trace a figure-eight with bottom: top left to bottom right; up; top right to bottom left; and up to the top left.

Boobs on Bob – Place your hands on his knees, then slide them up to his thighs. Keep your legs straight as you lean forward on your arms and up against his body. Stare into his eyes and you rub your breasts up his chest.

Leg Up – Flaunt those sexy gams and garters! Standing between his legs, lift your foot and put it above his knee. As you look into his eyes, trace your hand slowly from hip to ankle and back up and over your butt. Toy with the garter belt hook before undoing just one. Let it dangle there as he anticipates what you’ll remove next!

- Jill Sieracki  

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